Save My Relationship
You Can Save Your Relationship
Even if Your Partner Isn’t Ready to Join You
Imago is a Proven System - It Can Help!
Save my relationship! If that is what you really want, there is hope! Right now your dreams are shattered. You are in shock, angry, disappointed and sad. Your previously "perfect" union is now full of bitter conflict. Is it possible to repair this ruined relationship? Absolutely. In fact, the power struggles that are causing so much pain now can be a starting point to a strong, committed and loving relationship.
Knowing Why This Has Happened
Is the Key to Healing
What happened? Slowly over time, there were little omissions of affection, little erosions of kindness, a drop in romance. Maybe you didn't even notice the decline in playfulness. One day you wake up and realize that you have a relationship that is nearly dead and you ask yourself - should I try to save my relationship?
Neither of you are happy and the blame game starts: whose fault it is, accusations fly, defensiveness rises and the arguments increase and escalate.Have you found yourself in this situation? What should you do? Should you just give it up and try with someone else? That usually doesn't help. You will bring the same problems into your new relationship and the pattern will repeat.
These problems come from: - A lack of communication skills. Neither of you knows how to listen to each other, how to validate the other's feelings without making it wrong or right, and how to have empathy, to understand why your partner feels as he/she does. How to have compassion for their viewpoint and feelings.
- Not understanding and communicating what it is that makes you feel cherished and loved and what your partner needs from you to feel loved and cherished.
- Understanding how your childhood's unmet needs affect the relationship you are having right now.
The Cure:
Learning to Really Communicate
Since a lack of communication skills is at the heart of your current relationship problems, one way to help is through a structured Couple's Dialogue. This plays a key role is getting your relationship back on track. During this Couple's Dialogue, each of you will learn to really listen to the other. Intimacy occurs when you feel heard, understood, validated and your feelings are honored. This seemingly simple process can thaw the coldest hearts. Putting forth genuine effort to truly hear and understand your partner will be one of the most important things you can do to contribute to the emotional healing of your partner and to contribute to the strengthening of your relationship. When your partner learns how to truly hear and understand you, then you will have the relationship you dream of.
Imago Therapy will teach you: - How to have this Couple's Dialogue, to learn to listen, validate and honor each other's feelings.
- How to convey what you need to feel loved and cherished, and how to learn what your partner needs.
- How to change this conflict into a relationship that is a hundred times better than when you first began.
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