A proven strategy for intervention and prevention of a break-up, or relationship dissolution, is the focus of this book for same gender couples. Even if you or your partner feels that this might be "too little too late" and you are not motivated enough to rethink a break-up, dissolution or possible divorce, perhaps you will consider holding off for at least a few days, certainly just five more hours is not too much to ask.

This book outlines the intensive therapy process that I take couples through, and presents a program of pre-therapy exercises that I suggest couples do in advance of an intensive 5-hour couple's session.

I hope that reading this ebook will give you enough direction, hope and motivation to seek a licensed MFT therapist with expertise in The Imago Relationship Intensive.

 

Never Too Late To Start!

Fortunately, it is never too late for a new beginning!   I hope you will make the choice to use your current relationship crisis as a turning point for re-creating your relationship. It truly is possible to bury the old and negative ways of relating to one another and start a fresh and anew with your current partner. Most likely, neither of you want what you have been experiencing for the past several months or years. Why not go forward toward a better and different relationship with each other, and with any children?

Is there Hope for Your Relationship?

Yes.  I want to offer you authentic hope – based on real results.  Many couples on the brink of separation or dissolution have pretty much given up hope for positive change to occur in their relationship. But, even with a bit of motivation left & you can learn how to turn your relationship around, quickly.

Imagine being able to heal and change your current relationship and have it become something of your dreams. Just think how you would feel about yourself and your partner if you could protect any children from unnecessarily having to cope with the trauma of ending the relationship!

"Let me assure you, for the majority of couples, hope for transforming your current relationship into something of your dreams is absolutely possible, realistic and can begin to happen."

 

The Imago Relationship Intensive

Crisis – A Time of Opportunity

In my 25 years as a counselor, most couples come to my office in crisis mode, on the brink of break-up; and they are in no mood, and in no condition, to embark on a long course of counseling. A relationship crisis calls for drastic measures.  This is not the time for group therapy, a couples seminar, or simply self-help.  Couples need help now and to make changes now.  

Crisis can be a wake-up call for couples to make necessary changes and move forward toward a fresh start.

"Crisis work is different from growth work because profound change must take place quickly and be sustainable"

 

Immediate, Positive Change Is Necessary

Most of us resist change until our feet are put to the fire, until the pain has become too intense to endure the climate of the existing relationship any longer.  You need immediate attention to put out the fire and begin to heal the pain; that is the goal of The Imago Relationship Intensive Program. 

 “The Imago Relationship Intensive Program” is a concentrated, intensive approach which I have developed and successfully used with hundreds of couples to quickly make changes in their relationship.

“The Imago Relationship Intensive Program”  has been compared to months or years of other therapy.

You need a licensed, very experienced clinician with specialized training in intensive couples counseling who believes more in saving relationships than dissolving them.

 

How Does It Work?

Typically, after reading  my book, “Rescue Your Relationship in 5 Hours”, and completing the book’s Worksheets,  the couple and therapist work together for 5 hours in one day, followed very soon after by a few two-hour sessions. 

During this first 5-hour intensive session, you will:

·      Learn new communication and key relationship skills

·      Immediately be able to effectively & consciously choose to change destructive behaviors

·      Experience renewed feelings of hope for immediate change in your relationship

·      Begin to heal your relationship.

 

Looking for Positive Changes

After a short time it will become evident if a couple’s new, intentional behaviors are creating desired change in their relationship. We are looking for positive progress, not perfection. 

Getting the Most from The 5-Hour Intensive

If you decide to put forth your best effort for just 5 more hours, you can better determine if you and your partner able to make some of the key changes that will lead to the healing and renewal of your relationship. You and your partner have the potential to achieve a monumental success by modeling tenacity and commitment to your relationship. And what a legacy of love to offer any children!

When you change the behavior, the feelings will follow.

Realistically, you can't expect your loving feelings to magically and suddenly change before behavior changes. If you decide to do the work of healing your relationship and learning and practicing new skills, the feelings of love, romance and pleasure will regenerate over time.

Making changes in a troubled relationship is like planting a seed and watering it daily, keeping the faith that it will blossom. Then the little green stalk appears, the blossoming continues as long as you continue to nurture it.

There is no great magic to making a relationship work. It requires putting energy in the right direction to create the relationship you both want.

If you do the work, the relationship works.

It is not always so easy, but it is that simple.

 

Why Try Again?

Use “Imago Relationship Methods” to Find The Right Approach

Discouraged couples often tell me they have tried counseling, seminars, groups, etc. over the years and nothing has worked, so why try again?   This is a little like trying a lot of the wrong medicines on your sick child and saying, “Oh well, we know there is a cure but we can't seem to locate the right medicine at the moment, so let’s give up and let her die.” Hardly! If it were your sick child, you would probably be tenacious and never give up until you found the right medicine.

It breaks my heart to see couples, particularly parents, give up on their relationship before “finding that right medicine” and get the help that could make the difference.  In so many cases, a break-up or dissolution can be or could have been prevented with the right intervention and using the right therapist.

I often tell couples in my practice that a therapist is like training wheels. “You use the therapist until you both are up and rolling, and feel confident”.  Couples do not have to face these relationship struggles alone. There is help available and it can begin now.

“Love is not effortless. It requires mindful commitment to behave in the best interest of your partner; to make daily deposits into the emotional account of your beloved.”

-Janet Greenwood